Happy New Year!
Is it though? Does this picture look familiar? Every year, the beginning of January tends to put us under pressure to write the traditional list of “New Years Resolutions.” These usually involve tasks to better ourselves; to reset the gauge; to change something; to give up something, to do something fulfilling and enriching! And it all starts off with such good intentions yet how many of these life goals are actually achieved during the year? The truth is, hardly any are even carried through by the end of January.
This itself, leads us into a state of failure! Until next January 1st, that is.
Let us take a step back and imagine the energy “bowl” you are starting with – it is often empty by the time 31st December arrives. Before we try to refill the bowl, have a think and look at what is most important to you and reflect back on these areas:
Overall, how was the last year for you? Did you enjoy it? What irritated you? What went well for you? What would you like to change this year? Who do you need to help you? Think about the strengths you had to find to overcome any difficulty.
Who gave you happiness? What made you feel fulfilled? What gave you purpose? Build on these thoughts and push on with more. If you find you didn’t reach much happiness (let’s face it, 2016 was a pretty dire year for many it seems), draw upon times when then they did.
Are they realistic? Making goals manageable ensures you create small wins. Small wins create mastery and lead onto bigger wins. Bigger wins enable bigger goal creation. Start with something you can achieve and build upon it. Make the goals SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed).
- Being Accountable.
Tell a trusted “someone” your hopes and dreams for a positive change in 2017, this means they may be able to see how you are doing; join you in encouragement or even challenge any reluctance you may face.
- Keeping the bowl full.
For every imaginary chocolate M&M coming out of the bowl – oh that’s called life – keep in mind that challenges arise and then goals need to change and adapt. Rearrange your goals accordingly and regularly. Don’t set yourself up for failure or disappointment and don’t give up. Keep the bowl full – you can’t feed yourself or others from an empty bowl.